Tuesday, January 27, 2015

Hoarder or Collector



Are you a hoader or a collector?
Compulsive hoarding (more accurately described as "hoarding disorder") is a pattern of behavior that is characterized by the excessive acquisition of and inability or unwillingness to discard large quantities of objects that cover the living areas of the home and cause significant distress or impairment. Compulsive hoarding behavior has been associated with health risks, impaired functioning, economic burden, and adverse effects on friends and family members. When clinically significant enough to impair functioning, hoarding can prevent typical uses of space, enough so that it can limit activities such as cooking, cleaning, moving through the house, and sleeping. It could also potentially put the individual and others at risk of causing fires, falling, poor sanitation, and other health concerns.Compulsive hoarders may be conscious of their irrational behavior but the emotional attachment to the hoarded objects far exceeds the motive to discard the items.
In 2008, a study was conducted to determine if there is a significant link between hoarding and interference in occupational and social functioning. Hoarding behavior is often severe because hoarders do not recognize it as a problem. It is much harder for behavioral therapy to successfully treat compulsive hoarders with poor insight about their disorder. Results show that hoarders were significantly less likely to see a problem in a hoarding situation than a friend or a relative might.
 This is independent of OCD symptoms, as OCD patients are often very aware of their disorder.
Symptoms
Compulsive hoarding in its worst forms can cause fires, unsanitary conditions (e.g. rat and roach infestations), and other health and safety hazards.
Listed below are possible symptoms hoarders may experience:
1. They hold onto a large number of items that most people would consider useless or worthless, such as:
·         Junk mail, old catalogs and newspapers.
·         Worn out cooking equipment.
·         Things that might be useful for making crafts.
·         Clothes that "might" be worn one day.
·         Broken things/trash.
·         "Freebies" or other promotional products.
·         Empty cans of beverages/ empty bottles of perfumes/creams
2. Their home is cluttered to the point where many parts are inaccessible and can no longer be used for intended purpose. For example:
·         Beds that cannot be slept in.
·         Kitchens that cannot be used for food preparation, refrigerators filled with rotting food, stove tops with combustibles (such as junk mail, as well as old food piled on top of burners).
·         Tables, chairs or sofas that cannot be used for dining or sitting.
·         Unsanitary bathrooms; piles of human or animal feces collected in areas of the home, giant bags of dirty diapers that have been hoarded for many years.
·         Tubs, showers, and sinks are filled with items to the point where it can no longer be used for washing or bathing. Hoarders would thus possibly forgo bathing.
·         Some hoard animals they cannot even marginally care for; dead pets cannibalized by other pets are often found under the heaps. Pets suffer due to lack of mobility.
3. Their clutter and mess is at a point where it can cause illness, distress, and impairment. As a result, they:
·         Do not allow visitors in, such as family and friends or repair and maintenance professionals, because the clutter embarrasses them.
·         Are reluctant or unable to return borrowed items.
·         Steal due to the impulse of possession.
·         Keep the shades drawn so that no one can look inside.
·         Get into a lot of arguments with family members regarding the clutter.
·         Are at risk of fire, falling, infestation or eviction.
Often feeling depressed or anxious due to the clutter
Subtypes and related conditions
Obsessive–compulsive disorder
For many years, hoarding has been listed as a symptom or a subtype of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD). Obsessive compulsive disorder is a type of anxiety disorder, people with OCD experience unwanted thoughts that incline them to do something repetitively. Some of these behaviors are excessive cleanliness or even excessive toothbrushing. The current DSM says that an OCD diagnosis should be considered when:
1. The hoarding is driven by fear of contamination or superstitious thoughts.
2. The hoarding behavior is unwanted or highly distressing.
3. The individual shows no interest in the hoarded items.
4. Excessive acquisition is only present if there is a specific obsession with a certain item.
Compulsive hoarding does not seem to involve the same neurological mechanisms as more familiar forms of obsessive–compulsive disorder and does not respond to the same drugs, which target serotonin. In compulsive hoarding the symptoms are presented in the normal stream of consciousness and as such, they are not perceived as repetitive or distressing like in OCD patients. Also, despite the statistics indicating that there is a prevalence of hoarding in 18-40 percent of patients with OCD, only five percent of compulsive hoarders experience symptoms of OCD. In another study, a sample of 217 patients diagnosed with significant hoarding, only 18% were diagnosed with OCD, as opposed to the 36% that were diagnosed with a major depressive disorder. There are significant differences and issues between the diagnostic features of compulsive hoarding and OCD which are being considered in a possible addition to the DSM-V of a new independent disorder such as compulsive hoarding.It is also said that there may be an overlap with a condition known as impulse control disorder (ICD), particularly when compulsive hoarding is linked to compulsive buying or acquisition behavior.
Recent findings suggest to differentiate between three types of hoarding, that is: pure hoarding, hoarding plus OCD (i.e., comorbid OCD), and OCD-based hoarding. Given the aforementioned distinction, it was proposed to increase coverage of compulsive hoarding in the forthcoming Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, fifth edition (DSM-V), both by creating a distinct category for compulsive hoarding, provisionally named, Hoarding Disorder (either in the main manual under "obsessive-compulsive spectrum disorders" or in the appendix), and by including hoarding as a potential symptom of OCD.[27]
Book hoarding
Bibliomania is a disorder involving the collecting or hoarding of books to the point where social relations or health are damaged. One of several psychological disorders associated with books (such as bibliophagy or bibliokleptomania), bibliomania is characterized by the collecting of books which have no use to the collector nor any great intrinsic value to a more conventional book collector. The purchase of multiple copies of the same book and edition and the accumulation of books beyond possible capacity of use or enjoyment are frequent symptoms of bibliomania.
One of the most famous bibliokleptomaniacs in American history, Stephen Blumberg, never felt that he was doing anything wrong. "Blumberg was trying to save a forgotten world from a system (the libraries) that neglected it."
Animal hoarding
Animal hoarding involves keeping larger than usual numbers of animals as pets without having the ability to properly house or care for them, while at the same time denying this inability. Compulsive animal hoarding can be characterized as a symptom of a disorder rather than deliberate cruelty towards animals. Hoarders are deeply attached to their pets and find it extremely difficult to let them go. They typically cannot comprehend that they are harming their pets by failing to provide them with proper care. Hoarders tend to believe that they provide the right amount of care for their pets. The American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals provides a "Hoarding Prevention Team," which works with hoarders to help them attain a manageable and healthy number of pets. Along with other compulsive hoarding behaviors, it is linked in the DSM-IV to obsessive–compulsive disorder and obsessive–compulsive personality disorder. Alternatively, animal hoarding could be related to addiction, dementia, or even focal delusion.
Animal hoarders display symptoms of delusional disorder in that they have a "belief system out of touch with reality".Many hoarders lack insight regarding the extent of deterioration their habitation and the health of their animals undergo, and tend not to recognize that anything is wrong.Delusional disorder is an effective model in that it offers an explanation of hoarders' apparent blindness to the realities of their situations.
Another model that has been suggested to explain animal hoarding is attachment disorder, which is primarily caused by poor parent-child relationships during childhood.As a result, those suffering from attachment disorder may turn to possessions, such as animals, to fill their need for a loving relationship. Interviews with animal hoarders have revealed that hoarders often experienced domestic trauma during childhood, providing evidence for this model.Perhaps the strongest psychological model put forward to explain animal hoarding is obsessive–compulsive disorder (OCD).
The Animal Legal Defense Fund provides an online resource addressing ways, from a legal standpoint, to stop or prevent animal hoarding. It covers civil options for stopping animal hoarders, cost mitigation laws, and sentencing including mandatory forfeiture.
Collecting
Collecting and hoarding may seem similar, but there are distinct characteristics between hoarders and collectors that set them apart. Collecting involves actively seeking and acquiring specific things that form — at least from the perspective of the collector — an interesting set. Hoarding, by contrast, is haphazard and involves items that are not especially meaningful to the person who is hoarding them.People that hoard keep items that hold no true meaning or value. Most hoarders are disorganized and their homes are in disarray. Most collectors store their items systematically and or have their collections on display.
Which are you………
Source- Google

Saturday, January 17, 2015

colours


Your Personality Color


To discover your personality color, ask yourself:

what is my favorite color?

Answer this question now before reading any further.
Don't think about it, be spontaneous with your answer; accept the first color that comes into your mind and don't analyze your choice. 
It is this instinctual choice of a color that tells you a lot about yourself, how you function and how others see you.
It is the means to understanding your behavior and your character traits as well as your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual states.
It reflects the way you operate in the world, your strengths and weaknesses, your vulnerabilities, your deepest needs and your challenges at that time in your life.

Is It a Color I Always Wear?

Your personality color does not have to be one you wear all the time; it is usually your favorite, the color that excites you the most and makes you feel alive when you see it. That being said, you are often drawn to your personality color for clothing and home decorating. It is often a predominant color in your aura.

What if I Like More Than One Color?

If you have two or more equally favorite colors, read the information on each one to fully understand yourself and what motivates you. You will find that you relate to parts of each color profile.

Dislike of a Color

The colors you dislike can tell you a lot about yourself as well, often reflecting your weaknesses and vulnerabilities.
Your most disliked color will relate to areas in your life that need to be given attention or past hurts that need to be healed. Think back to your childhood or any earlier time in your life where you may have developed a dislike of the color. There is always a connection!
Rejecting whole colors can create imbalances in your life so it is a good idea to try to incorporate a small amount of your disliked colors into your life by using them in clothing or underwear or in your home or work environment, to help balance your energies.

Does Everyone Have a Favorite Color?

Most of us do and many of us have had the same one since childhood. Some will change this color once or more times during their lifetime while others will have one color for their whole lifetime. Some will prefer another color for a while, depending on their needs at that time, but will come back to their original favorite when those specific needs are met.
For those of you who don't think you have a personality color, look at the clothes you wear and the way you choose to decorate your home or office. Are there one or more colors you consistently choose? Then these will be the colors that reflect your personality and your deepest needs. Whether you like or dislike a color can be dependent on your own life experiences and your positive and negative associations to the color as well as your need for the qualities of that color.
Surround yourself with the colors you love, either by wearing them or using them decoratively in your environment. They will empower you to be true to yourself, to show your true colors.
Always use a small amount of other colors with your favorites to keep your energies and behavior balanced.

Have You Changed Your Favorite Color?

If you have changed your personality color, or favorite color, try to identify the circumstances surrounding your life at that time as your new favorite will reflect qualities you need to attract into your life to help you deal with those circumstances.

What Does Your Personality Color Say About You?

To read more about your personality color, click on the link for each color
If your favorite color is red, you are action oriented with a deep need for physical fulfillment and to experience life through the five senses.
If orange is your favorite color, you have a great need to be with people, to socialize with them, and be accepted and respected as part of a group. You also have a need for challenges in your life, whether it is physical or social challenges.
Choosing yellow as your favorite means you have a deep need for logical order in your everyday life and to be able to express your individuality by using your logical mind to inspire and create new ideas.
If green is your favorite, you have a deep need to belong, to love and be loved, and to feel safe and secure. You need acceptance and acknowledgment for the everyday things you do for others - just a 'thank you' is sufficient.
Lovers of blue have a deep need to find inner peace and truth, to live their life according to their ideals and beliefs without having to change their inflexible viewpoint of life to satisfy others.
Indigo lovers have a need to feel in harmony and at one with the Universe and to be accepted by others as the aware and intuitive spiritual beings that they are.
If purple or violet is your favorite color, you have a deep need for emotional security and to create order and perfection in all areas of your life, including your spiritual life. You also have a deep need to initiate and participate in humanitarian projects, helping others in need.
If your personality color is pink you have a deep need to be accepted and loved unconditionally.
If turquoise is your favorite color your deepest need is to create emotional balance in your life, to be able to express your hopes and dreams no matter how idealistic they may be and to make your own way in the world under your own terms.
If your favorite color is magenta, you are a non-conformist who sees life from a different point of view.
Lovers of brown have a deep need for a safe, secure, simple and comfortable existence with supportive family and friends.
Lovers of black have a need for power and control in order to protect their own emotional insecurities.
If white is your personality color, your deepest need is for simplicity in your own life and to be independent and self-reliant so you do not need to depend on anyone else.
With gray as your favorite color, you are the middle of the road type, cool, conserved, composed and reliable. You tend to conform just to keep the peace.
If silver is your favorite, you are intuitive and insightful and have a strong connection with a higher spiritual guidance.
With a personality color gold, you radiate charisma, personality and individuality, making others feel relaxed and valued in your company.

source- empower-yourself-with-color-psychology.com
 


Friday, January 16, 2015

thinking corner



Food for thought-
Do not forget small kindness and do not remember small faults.
Chinese proverb

Thursday, January 15, 2015

introduction



Mum and friends is dedicated to my very good friend- Alima
 The purpose of this blog is to bring mothers all over the world together, to help lift each other, to learn and share from each others culture and background, to help mothers relax and learn more about the world around, on how to be that amazing woman.
Mum and friends will help our husband’s and sons to understand and learn how to live with us better each day.
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